Life is busy, I get that. We've got kids, work, laundry, deadlines, emails, screens, movies, music, Candy Crush, et cetera.
We've got a million reasons to not bang our significant others tonight. It happens in monogamous relationships, to people in general. The wax and wane of sex drives differ, and change for both men and women as life events fluctuate and grow. Or slow, in some cases.
We’ve all been there.
Life can get in the way of sex, as it falls down the priority list. You meet someone and you bang like bunnies, but after a few years things slow down. Maybe the birth of a baby has derailed the sexy times. Maybe you are just tired now. Maybe deep down there is resentments. What ever the case, not having sex will help NONE of these things. Not having sex with the person you love only deepens the disconnect that drives you not to bang in the first place.
I urge you. Please. Put the phone’s down, shut off the TV, get naked, and get down and dirty, TONIGHT.
Try these Tips!
What you Usually Do: Dinner is done ,dishes are done, You are now covered in food particles from that seriously messy kid you just JUUUUST finally got to sleep in his own bed tonight. You are in sweatpants and you feel gross. Your Significant other walks in from work at that veeeery moment you finish picking the boogers out of your hair. You either want to jump in the shower or just go to bed.
What You Should Do: Uh... you just finished a day of taking care of your family, and that is sexy. Wear the pureed peas on your shirt like a badge of honor. When your boo does walk in the door, turn to them and strip off that tee shirt, slide those sweat pants off and say nothing. Undress your boo, and have dirty nasty sex on the kitchen counter. There is a big difference between ‘fucking’ and ‘making love’, but whatever works for you. It shows that, yes, we work, we work hard, but no matter what, you need to have that other person. That’s sexy as hell.
OR try this: Get yourself all dolled up, Porn Star Style, and allow your significant other to ‘catch’ you watching porn, and masterbating. It’s hot, sexy, fun and easy to do. It gets you in the mood, and I promise, if your mate walks in on this, you will have sex, and it will be great. By getting dolled up, you show you want to be viewed as sexy, as a sex object. Let your man do what he wants to do to you, and have fun.
Spice Up Date Night: The actual date location does not even matter here. Whether it be the movies or out to eat, the trick to this is journey to the destination. Wear a cute dress, with no panties. Obviously this sets you up for options. As you're driving along, slide your partner's hand up your thighs, and let them touch you to let them know you have no panties on. Give them a little bit, but not all of it. Go have dinner, knowing the moment you two are alone, sex will happen. On the drive home, slide their hand up your thigh again, but let whatever's going to happen, happen. Pull over in a secluded area and fuccccck the shit out of each other. it’s naughty, and will be your little secret.
I get that life gets in the way of sex. I hate that, but it's true. But your sex life will only die if you let it. You have to stay proactive, and if there are issues preventing great sex with your partner, those need to be addressed. Great, connective sex is a must in any long term relationship. It’s normal to not want sex every moment of the day, but sex takes effort and time. It should always be on the top priority list, for your sae and theirs. The more good sex you have the happier you will be!