What is Good Sex, Anyway?
We've all had bad sex. Sex that was so bad it embarrass us at the mere memories. Awkward positions, weird noises and unexpected bodily fluids have happened to all of us at one time or another. It sucks. But it happens. To EVERYONE.
It’s more than that, though. Bad sex happens when there is no real reasons as to why you are sleeping with whoever you are sleeping with. “Cuz it’s fun” is at least a reason. The lack of emotional attachment is common in this day in age when having sex. But for some people that’s ok. For some people, they can float freely, and explore different kinds of sexual lifestyles, and perhaps they settle on an open marriage or a strictly BDSM relationship. What ever makes you happy. If there is a pure lack of joy behind the sexual act, and it’s something you’re doing just to do, for no reasons, is a bad thing and will lead to bad, emotionally wrecking sex.
There are ways to have way, way good sex.
Good sex, is something I HOPE everyone's had. That earth shattering, god damn great sex. That orgasm that you will never forget. It’s literally what runs the world. Great, mind blowing sex is something to strive for. Make sure that you have sex for the pleasure of it. Don’t do it just to make someone else happy. Know your worth. Know your boundaries, and know your self! Spend time with yourself and find out what you like so you can guide your partner(s) to that spot that makes you scream. Of course you want to make sure that your partner is well taken care of, and given the dame chance to come as you were given. Like lots of things in life, it’a a give and take.
Be in the moment, don’t worry about what you might look like while having sex, don't worry about the where or the what’s, concentrate on how good it feels. How fun it is! Be prepared physically and emotionally. Weather it be a quicky or you're laid up in bed with your boo thang, great sex is possible in every sexual encounter. Speak your mind and let your partner know “Hey, I like when you rub my clit when you do me”. You won’t get it unless you ask for it. BE your own advocate for fun, safe, mind blowing sex.
Your sex is yours. You have your own style. You want to share that with someone, who makes you come, and happy, and fulfilled. It sounds cheesy, I know, but trust me, I’m a Sexpert.
The amount of people you sleep with isn't the point. I knew a prostitute who had slept with over 1,000 men. She hated sex and everything about it. She knew nothing of how to have great sex. The number is not the measure of your worth, and isn't the only factor in ‘experience’. Sleep with one person, four people, a million people. As long as it’s safe, and consensual, you are good to go.
Shut off your computer, after liking and sharing this article and 990WBOB on Facebook of course, and go have some great sex.
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