Raw Sex: Anal- From OUCH! and EWWW! To Pleasurable For You!

By Alicia: The Sexual Intellectual

Raw Sex 
Session #1

On Episode #108 of The Franchise, we covered the topic of anal sex.

And now for your reading pleasure, let's get into it all: from the do's and don'ts; to the want's and  wont's... Proper lubes, toys, health concerns, anatomy, and of course; positions. 

I think we can all agree that anal sex isn't for everyone... BUT we can also agree that you don't know if it's enjoyable, UNTIL you've at least tried it. Whether you are a male or a female, the high concentration of nerve endings in the anus, paired with the fact  that it is an erogenous zone and we all love to toil in the world of the taboo, can lead us to some mind blowing orgasms.

Q & A: What Is the Anus?

The anus is a 1.5-inch long tube that is surrounded by two "O-Rings."  Those two "O-Rings" are your external sphincter (which you can control), and your internal sphincter (which you cannot control). After the anus, is the rectum, which is the proceeding 5 inches.

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Myths:

• You will lose control of your sphincter and begin to poop yourself. Untrue. When the proper precautions are taken, the muscles in the anus work like any other muscle in the body... warm them up! You don't hit the gym for the first time and attempt to lift 400 lbs.

• Anal sex is "safer" sex. No type of sex is "safer" when it comes to STDs, infections, and HIV. Limit the amount of unprotected activity, use protection as often as possible, limit sexual partners, get checked regularly by your doctor, and ALWAYS be honest!

• Anal sex is painful. If anal sex is a painful act for you, you are probably doing something wrong. You must use the proper lubes, take it slowly and gradually work your way up to a penis. I recommend creating a relaxing environment, analingus, lubed up fingers, then toys, then attempt the penis.

• Your butt is "dirty." Some of us have grown up in households where when mom caught you touching your bum as a child you were reprimanded. Your butt with proper hygiene, is a beautiful place. Don't let what others have psychologically embedded in you, stop you from exploring your body's full potential.

• Anal sex is only for homosexuals. Heterosexuals have been experimenting with anal sex since the beginning of time. It's tight, warm, and EXTREMELY pleasurable for both parties when done right.

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Tips:

 FOR MEN
 
If you would like to try anal sex with your partner, be gentle and very patient. Do not force yourself in or try the sneak attack. That approach will guarantee you a ticket down "No Anal Lane" AKA "No Buttsex Boulevard." The best way to approach this is with lots of open communication and play. Let her experiment on you if she requests to make her feel secure and to enhance the trust. 

FOR WOMEN
 
 Try it at least once, with the proper attention to detail, health and well-being.  I can almost guarantee you will be addicted and begging for more. Don't be afraid to communicate your feelings to your partner, "I'm scared," "It hurts;" communication is key to a relationship, especially a sexual one. For some women it is easier if they are in control, instead of allowing him to put it in, make him lay on his back and you can gently lower yourself upon him. Most importantly, try different positions. Doggy style can be a bit intense for some women the first time around. It is a position that allows for deeper penetration, while you aren't able to view anything or have any control which can be quite frightening! 

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Warnings!

• DO NOT use vaginal toys in the anus, as it is a vacuum and will suck in anything that does not have an ending or a base.
• Try not to alternate between the anus and the vagina as the swap of bacteria can disrupt the flora in the vagina causing bacterial infections (which aren't pleasant).
• DO NOT try to replicate porn. Those girls have been ready and prepped prior to their scenes, along with much editing.
• Use lube and lots of it. The Anus is not self lubricating! The friction can become unpleasant, and also cause bodily harm, including tears to the tissue which leave you at a greater risk for contracting STIs, STDs and HIV.
• DO NOT use flavored lubes.
• Spit is not enough. Not to mention that we carry vast amounts of bacteria in our mouths.

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Thanks for reading my blog. Your questions and feedback are welcome. I hope you have learned something from this session and you walk away with a new sense of sexual empowerment. Education is most important when encountering things we fear, don't avoid them. Educate yourself on the things you fear and face them head on.

Much Love, 
Alicia

Listen to Alicia's Raw Sex segment, every Tuesday on The Franchise with Joe Ferro